Did childsupport kill the deadbeat dad?

The one thing that men-excuse me boys-are terrified of. Yet it could be possibly be the easiest thing they will ever do when it comes to participating in their children's lives. Isn't it so much easier guys to just send out that check each month, or every few months, or even once a year when income tax rolls around before you realize that your entire refund will go to back child support. (Bet you won't make that mistake again next year) Cutting a check is so-impersonal. No need to worry how your offspring is doing in school, if she's making A's or D's. No phone calls from the counselor about your sons "emotional well-being." You just go to work, get the money taken out, then complain every time how that extra hundred could have went towards something better. As opposed to your child's education. Or daycare. Boys can hide behind child support. It is their excuse that hey they are doing their "fatherly" duty and don't your dare call him a deadbeat dad!!! He PAYS his child support every month. But when is the last time you actually PAID some attention to your child? Kicked a ball around, danced to her favorite song, put the training wheels on the bike then watched as those wheels came off. Did child support replace the actual physical need for a child to have both parents active in his/her life? Has it become the new crutch for this generations reformed version of the deadbeat dad? Visitation comes mandatory with child support through the court system. Yet visitation is not enforced. The state will not come and track you down and throw you in jail if you are behind on your visitations. There is no "back pay" for quality time lost. When you are aging there is no need to worry if your retirement will be spent by having to sit in the same room as your child for days,months,years in order to make up for the visits you didn't make when they were younger. It is only the money. The little thing that will haunt your for the rest of your life-a reminder that yes somewhere out there is an actual human being that is flesh of your flesh, blood of your blood. So why are you more familiar with the face that appears on a $100 bill then that of one that is half yours? God forbid something happened to your kid and you had to identify the body. Or your child becomes lost. That one of those things that you always say could never happen to you-actually does. Do you show up with photographs-some tattered and some smudged from the quickness of which you just pulled them off the printer. Do you bring videos so they can see exactly where her mole is on her left arm that could be confused for a freckle but look-you see right there at her 8Th birthday party that closeup shot-definitely a mole. That might help. Do you bring the toys he loved to play with-like the plane he loved to fly when there was no wind. Or do you simply show up with a court order and a copy of your pay stub and the current amount of child support withheld circled in red?